Mano Poderosa (The All-Powerful Hand)
bad, bad mood.
Whether you are plagued with self-doubt or nervous about specific life happenings, anxiety is anxiety. It is something that you are unconsciously adding to your situation without even realizing it. Life can be challenging enough without needing to pile on the extra fears and tensions that come with defending an ego.
Anxiety can become an intense experience rife with endless compulsive thoughts and physiological reactions of panic, rapid heart rate, sweat, and other typical nervous symptoms. Anxiety can also be a mild background feeling of unease from which you unconsciously seek release throughout the day.
A simple way to break down anxiety is to describe it as too much mind and not enough Presence.
Mind imagines and then analyzes past and future, drumming up old fears, fantasizing about potential conflicts, and always judging you relative to various happenings. How can we really get comfortable here and now if our measure of this moment is shaped completely by memory and expectation?
"Too much mind and not enough Presence"
you were unnervingly delicate,
and I had a weakness for etiquette,
you laid a trail that lead straight to your door,
like gossamer, you sofly touch,
he draws me in, I’m powerless
he possesses an enchantment..
mr-tambourineman27 asked: I've been struggling with self confidence for a while now. Sometimes, I feel I'm easily intimidated by others, and sometimes even become somewhat of a pushover. Any advice on overcoming this and nurturing confidence? Namaste.
"Even as a solid rock is unshaken by the wind, so the wise are not shaken by praise or blame." ~ Buddha
A rock need not fight and struggle and posture itself so as to give the impression of confidence. It simply remains unmoved.
To be unmoved by the appearances of others, to be unmoved by your own transient insecurities, this non-reactive quality negates the need for confidence all together.
Confidence only makes sense in the context of insecurity. Without insecurity, what is confidence? Just something extra that creates more confusion than clarity. When you’re no longer sick, stop taking the medicine. When insecurity is no longer a factor, stop playing the game of confidence.
How to make insecurity no longer a factor? Stop playing the game of confidence.
That game never ends and no one ever wins. That’s the whole trip of the ego. There is always something to threaten your ego, something to make you feel insecure. So stop dancing to the ego’s tunes, stop trying to make the ego happy.
But on the flipside, don’t become a doormat either. Be unmovable. I don’t mean stubborn or ignorant, I mean unfazed by the fluctuations of your experiences both inner and outer.
Sometimes we feel safe and happy, sometimes we feel threatened and fearful, sometimes we feel boastful and strong, othertimes we feel weak and small.
None of that matters; none of that is the true. For what comes and goes is but that: coming and going. To take it seriously is to assume it’s around here to stay and somehow indicates any inherent reality.
You don’t need to nurture confidence, you need to recognize your insecurity and intimidation for what they are as they arise. When you can see those feelings come over you and recognize what they are, they may still hang around for a bit but they don’t trick you into thinking that what they have to say to you is true or real.
A book that will really help you come to terms with these feelings without trying to reject or suppress them is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. Daily meditation will help you to actualize this.
As a result of spiritual practice, you come to know what you really are without the context of name and form. When you know who you are, you stop looking for a sense of identity in the eyes of onlookers.
Namaste :) Much love